The Blog of ozoyster

To Other People:

Smile (and mean it)!!!!!

be positive

be patient

be allowing, give them space

be happy

be happy to show positive emotions

listen carefully

be humble

be caring

be calm

be kind

be honest

be very loving

just be there!!!!!

To Yourself:

be confident

be honest

be open minded

be happy to always learn something new

be calm

be focussed

be happy inside

be a still spirit

be happy to let your soul free

be happy to let someone love you

be sure

be happy to feel that deep emotion called love.

just be yourself

just be

My mood: very happy

Saturday I got a message from someone that really upset me.  My friend didn't mean to do anything they were just following a train of thought and verbalising it.

However it put me in a panic and I fled out of the work place and headed for my car just to get some air.

The emotions stirred up by this message just welled up out of me as I was driving and trying to text my friend. I just burst into tears. My face was wet and streaming as I just cried helplessly. I couldn't stop. It was a way that I have never cried like that for anyone in many years.  I was so scared of losing my friend that utter terror and helplessness just overcame me. This person means so much to me in ways that words just don't describe how I feel or the effect that this person has on me. I've never felt this way for someone before!!!

The experience brought all the emotions and feelings back of past experiences where others have just walked off. My friend and I texted and I calmed down a little. But I still feel nervious and my talk with this person has become a little inhibited, afraid of what might come next. It feels so bad feeling this way.

Am I wrong or bad to feel this way??

This is a question that has been in and on my mind for a little while:

Gender stereotyping is a question that seems to occupy enough books, magazine articles, films, TV programmes in this time.

But I just want to throw open a question to EP'ers about the title of my blog,...

Can a real man openly show his feelings and more to the point his deepest feelings either in public or to the people who are nearest and dearest to him? Is it OK for him to cry in an extreme emotional situation if that's what he feels he has to do??

I ask this question especially in the situtaion of losing a loved one,.. someone really close. And in the situation where there is real sadness and grief.  Can this hypothetical 'Man' still be strong, resillient, outwardly very 'male' and yet show feelings....sometimes??

What do you think?